tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14478906.post115103244054284795..comments2023-08-29T04:28:03.701-04:00Comments on where the revolution's gonna begin: On Rape and "Precautions"Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06390625088274888392noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14478906.post-1156345718821120762006-08-23T11:08:00.000-04:002006-08-23T11:08:00.000-04:00I agree. I don't like victim blaming. But as I am ...I agree. I don't like victim blaming. But as I am no longer a young woman, and as my daughter blossoms into an attractive teenager, I feel I have to say something to her. <BR/><BR/>And a lecture on patriarchy and "only men can stop rape" alone isn't goint to do it. I don't want her to be a prisoner and not engage with life. But, damn it, there must be some steps she can take to proactively protect her own life. Otherwise, she should just be passive and ignorant as to the dangers out there? At minimum, I tell her about the danger of drug and alcohol use, how being "compromised" can make you vulnerable to assault, date rape, and worse. Not that she needs to be a teetotaler for life. But should I tell her nothing? Have her pass out at a party, get gang raped, and then tell me at the hospital that she had no idea that chugging half a bottle of booze could have had this effect? Not that I would blame her if it did happen, not at all. But damn, as a parent, I think we do need to put the information out there. <BR/><BR/>It IS a dangerous world. There is no evidence that men intend to stop raping. And we need to identify useful ways to protect the safety of ourselves and our daughters without letting men off the hook, compromising our own life or mobility, or degenerate into victim blaming.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14478906.post-1151413017059433052006-06-27T08:56:00.000-04:002006-06-27T08:56:00.000-04:00agreed. the whole "women should take precautions"...agreed. the whole "women should take precautions" argument is predicated on the idea that rape happens to certain "types of women" in certain types of situations.<BR/><BR/>it dismisses the fact that rape happens to every kind of woman in every kind of situation.catswymhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05660037273219914214noreply@blogger.com